I’ve always found this Andhra style hot & spicy chicken fry to be very flavorful, and a cozy dish for winters. Known for its sizzling items, full of flavor, Andhra cuisine is like none other. It’s so good.
Some of the hottest and spiciest food from South India, they say, is from Andhra Pradesh. I personally haven’t had any spicy food that I can’t handle, but for most, this would be pretty spicy, but not quite unbearable. Chicken Fry is a staple in many homes, and everyone has their favorites. Mine has to be my mom’s style pepper chicken, which is my little one’s favorite too. This Spicy Chicken fry is inspired by the cuisine of Andhra, and quickly, our pepper chicken had some competition.
HOW TO GET YOUR KID TO ENJOY FOOD
Eating food has to be a lovely enjoyable experience, not a dreaded one.
I share my everyday food on Instagram, and I often show the lunches that they take to school. Few commonly asked questions that I get from many on Instagram is: How do my kids handle hot food? Are mine just fussy eaters? How did you train your kids to not be fussy eaters?
I have always tried to keep it real on this blog, and the reality is, it’s hard work to get the kids to enjoy mealtime and not fear it. Would you believe me if I said my now teen, when he was a year or two old, would not eat anything? He was probably the pickiest, slowest, and fussiest eater ever (at least to me). Mealtime was a chore for the both of us, as well as anyone around us. I didn’t like force-feeding, and he surely didn’t like being force-fed. His head turns while feeding him made me angry. I remember giving him ragi porridge with a pad of butter and he would literally struggle to eat it. He took an hour to drink his milk. I don’t know if it’s an Indian thing, but I would often get questions like, oh he’s so skinny, oh he’s lost weight, oh he looks so frail… it bothered me to the core. I would ask myself, when did he even have that much weight to lose?
People didn’t seem to understand that their remarks would get to me. It just made the feeding situation more difficult. Now, I understand we should be worrying about what is inside rather than the number on the scale. Being healthy, rather than just looks.
One day, when my little boy was 22 months, my hubby read a book by Dr Spock. Hubby never believed in force-feeding. He read the book in detail. And he was determined to change things with the feeding. We had to change/do a few things to see a difference in his eating behavior.
- Do not hand feed your child
- Don’t force feed
- Eat together on the dining table with the child. Serve the food like we do for all and keep the plate in front of the kid too.
- Enjoy your meal, not focusing on how your kid is doing. If he/she was not touching the food, it was OK. You can gently remind him/her to eat. Don’t make a big fuss.
- When you all have finished your meal, see if your little needs help eating. If not, don’t feed. Take away the plate. If he/she wants to eat, leave the plate for another 10 minutes before taking the plate away.
- Do this consistently at least for 10 days.
- Do not give them any filler food and unnecessary snacks. It has to be mealtime food.
Day 1: With dread, we started the process on a cold December day when hubby was home on vacation. I was not strong enough. No mom is. I remember the first meal, my hubby took away because he turned his face away from eating. I cried. I argued with the husband. He said, “Go inside the room, I’ll manage.” The little one was more adamant than we thought he was. He drank four cups of water, which we made sure he had. He did not touch any solid meal.
Day 2: He had a couple of ounces of milk and was very happy that he didn’t have to eat. He was full of energy and happiness, and excited to just drink water. No food.
Day 3: He looked tired, but was still going strong. He drank his water and his morning milk without a fuss, and yet again, no food.
Day 4: I was ready to give up. I couldn’t bear to see his little cherry cheeks go inside. He looked even skinnier than his skinny self. His pants were almost falling off. I layered him up so he looked at least a little fluffy. No food.
Day 5: We had friends come home, and they were so sad to see him skinny, and not his peppy self. They looked at both of us with condescension, like we were pathetic to do that to a little child. Still no food, no play, and no milk either. I think this was the worst day for me as a mum.
Day 6: He woke up showing the refrigerator, as he wanted milk. Now that was huge. I didn’t give him anything else in between meals. He sat down with us at the table and nibbled on his waffles and egg without a single word. Hubby and I looked at each other, questioning if it was real. Would it continue?
Day 7: Under the blue and bright sky, I woke up with a big smile, looking forward to the day. I cuddled with the little boy for a while before I went into the kitchen to make him some milk. I wasn’t anxious as I used to be. I felt relaxed. The little boy looked relaxed. I prayed and gave him a glass of milk to drink, and he happily gulped it down. We stepped out for lunch, and he happily had his pasta. I thought that maybe he just liked that pasta more than normal, still skeptical that he had changed. Dinner time came, and it was like the sky erupted in a display of shooting stars. He finished his meal in ten minutes and smiled ear to ear.
Fast forward fifteen years, and he sees meal time like a beautiful ritual. I started getting the kids in the kitchen when they were young. They picked out the vegetables that they liked. And I would pick one new one which they didn’t like, and they would help me cook. Looking at food in a different way HELPED. He became a complete foodie. He enjoys cooking, eating, and feeding people. And eating. It was not about him enjoying spicy food, it was not about him enjoying Indian food, it was about him enjoying food. He still turns his nose up to papaya and cucumber, and I’ll take that.
When you change your attitude, the rest changes on its own. There’s a paradigm shift.
Always remember, each situation is different, each kid is different. Tailor everything to the needs of you and your kids. I am not a specialist, so do your own research. Mainly, don’t bother listening to what everyone around you says. Don’t stress. Kids are smart, they won’t starve. This worked for me and it was life-changing.
Now food is a spiritual experience, exactly how it should be. Like how testing and trial and error works for blogs, life is just like that.
This is a spicy chicken dry fry that we enjoy at home. Most of the dishes do begin with ginger garlic, onion, and tomato. The combinations make a subtle but noticeable difference.
This dish has three aspects that lend to the heat. The green chilies, the chili powder, and the pepper that we use in the end. All the three peppers have different nuances and notes. One adds color, while one has an intense heat in the back of the throat. The final one hits the tongue the moment you eat it. Note that each one is also used at different stages, which is important.
Don’t add water to this dish at all. The liquid from the chicken and the yogurt is enough to coat the chicken with some sauce. Try not to skimp on the oil, which is also important to balance all the heat and get the dark color that this chicken is famous for.
Add more or less of chilies as you like, but this definitely is not for the faint of heart. It’s a party in the mouth, like the boys call it.
Enjoy!!
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- 1 whole chicken, cut to 3-4 inch pieces about 3-4 pounds chicken, bone in.
- 3 tbsp thick sour yogurt
- ½ tsp turmeric powder
- 1 tbsp lemon juice
- 1 tbsp chili powder
- ½ tsp salt
- 1 inch ginger, peeled
- 8 cloves garlic, peeled
- 4-6 green thai chilies, depending on how hot you want it
- ½ tsp fennel seeds
- 1 tsp crushed black pepper
- 3 tbsp oil +2 tbsp oil
- 10 curry leaves
- 1 tsp cumin
- 1 large onion, finely chopped
- 2 tomatoes, finely chopped
- 2 inches ginger, peeled and very thinly sliced
- ½ tsp garam masala powder
- Salt
- finely chopped cilantro
- 10 cashews
- Wash the chicken very well and drain it and pat dry.
- In a mixing bowl, add the chicken, yogurt, turmeric powder, chili powder, ½ tsp salt. Mix well and let it marinate for 30 minutes.
- Grind the ginger, garlic and green chilies to a a coarse paste, without water.
- Toast the fennel and pepper powder in a non stick pan on low heat until you smell the spices and it toasts a bit. Do not burn it. Take it out and coarsely crush it.
- In a large, heavy bottomed pan add oil and keep the heat on medium heat. Add the cumin and let it brown, add the ginger-garlic-chili paste, and fry for 30 seconds before adding the onion and saute it for a minute or until it is softened. Add the tomatoes and fry for a minute. Add the marinated chicken and toss it very well. Let it come to come to a bubble for about 5 minutes. Cover and cook for 15 minutes. DO NOT ADD WATER.
- After 15 minutes, take off the lid and turn the heat on to HIGH. Uncover and let it dry out. After about 5 minutes, add the thinly sliced ginger and 2 tbsp of oil and garam masala and keep sauteeing and let it dry for another 10 minutes. The chicken will be cooked by now. Turn off the heat and add the toasted fennel and pepper powder, cilantro and cashew.
Neha Pradhan
This is such a lovely read, Asha ! You know how I can totally relate to every word you just wrote above. My mun tells the exact same stuff – to let her be, do not hand feed, and take the plate away if she doesn’t want to eat 😉
She’s 8 this month & I still struggle !! I hope I can muster yo some courage & try this out. Loved the recipe. Trying it out the next time I get some chicken home. Love xx
Asha Shivakumar
I completely know what your are going through. Tough love sometimes helps Neha. It’s not a temporary thing, it’s a long term thing. I’m sure you’ll get to a peaceful point with her. Stay strong. Hugs my dear!!
Hope you get to try it out.
xo
Rachel
What a great post Asha, loved reading it today and I definitely will refer back to it once I have few of my own kids 😁. Great tips shed and you are definitely right about the” attitude” And not giving up! Also absolutely love the pepper chicken recipe and will make it soon!! Love ❤️
Swarna
The recipe looks delish Asha. My mother never added tomato though in fries but I would like to give this a try! And yes, I can proudly say that I am from Andhra and we have the best tasting food. The Andhra Ava Kaya and Gongura pickles are to die for!! You know what I mean! I can’t wait to try this out over the weekend!
And also I can relate to every word you said about feeding kids! I still regret my lack of knowledge and ignorance when I fed my now teen girl! I would cry every single day and even had to force her milk making her lay flat on my legs and would close her nose, then she would open mouth to breathe and the spoonful of milk would go into her throat! She is now 17 and am relieved and can’t believe it that is history now! Even I learned a lot from Dr.Spocks website which I implement in the early school years!
Asha Shivakumar
Andhra food is bomb dot com. I’d love to try your ammas chicken. Oh yes, gongur pickles to die for and chicken pickle, so so good.
I hear you, i’ve been there done that. While it lasted for 2 years, I am so glad it has changed and the way they look at food is so different. My boys are more desis than Indian kids in India:). Dr Spocks is amazing.
Thanks for stopping by to read my dear.
xo
Angie@Angie's Recipes
Looks so flavourful with all the spices!
Asha Shivakumar
Thank you hon.
xo
Shamim
Hey Asha! Reading your post brought back memories of a similar situation I was in. I learned to just let things go and let my son decide if he wanted to eat or not and hey presto it worked. I definitely think it is an ‘Indian thing’ being asked if he’s ok or why he is so skinny, etc. lol
I got it a the time.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
Asha Shivakumar
Hey hey hey, it always works. They grow up and they are fine. Hahah, Indian thing for sure.
Thanks for stopping by and writing, hugs.
xo
dixya @food, pleasure, and health
absolutely precious read!!! cant wait to share with others…
Asha Shivakumar
Absolutely!!! Something many parents can relate to.
xx
Bansi
Lovely write up and memories! It’s hard to
believe they are all grown up. It feels like yesterday. And, you both as parents did an awesome job!! 👏🏼👏🏼❤️
I’m looking forward to try this recipe!
Hehee…loved the party in a mouth description… lol!!
Asha Shivakumar
Thanks girl. You know the craziness, and yes, grown up too fast.
Try it out, you’ll love it.
Hugs
Sarah
This is going on my must make list pronto, although I suspect from experience that it will look no where as good as yours!
Asha Shivakumar
Oh as long as it tastes bomb, job is done:). I can’t wait for you to make it, you’ll like it.
Lewis Livingstone
Lovely, thought-invoking story. Look forward to trying the recipe out. X
Natasha Minocha
What a lovely write up Asha!I did pretty much the same with both my kids. Its not been easy, but now they eat mostly without a fuss. I’ve made sure they get involved some way or the other with the whole cooking/ setting the table or some process in the kitchen. And I’m really looking forward to making this dish, minus the heat, as much as possible!:)
xoxo
Little Cooking Tips
LOVED this! The only problem is, I can’t have chilies because of my stomach, so we’ll have to make this without them, and then Panos can add as many as he likes in his dish lol 😀
Fantastic recipe dear Ash, so rich, so flavorful; like you said “a party in your mouth”!
Lots of love from both of us,
xoxoxo